Stages of dating Drs Henry Cloud and John Townsend, authors of Boundaries in Dating warn against accelerated relationships, which they say have the capacity to make a couple too short sighted to see relationship issues and problems.The authors encourage couples to pace all the stages of their relationship slowly and instead of compacting everything into a brief but concentrated period of time.Here the couple actively and volitionally evaluates the differences they have encountered and determines if the relationship is worth the difference both of them recognise.
At times, they bow to pressure and pop the question themselves.
In an article on the website, Mr Franck says that dating has five stages: Infatuation, illumination, evaluation, maturation and preparation.
The infatuation period is the time of initial and continual physical awareness and usually last from three to five months depending on the experiences of the two and the frequency of time the spend together.
Once he proposes, it is a matter of time before the wedding. That pressure can be intimidating.” Other people campaign for whirlwind romances being of the school of thought that the commitment to marriage is more important than any amount of similarity between a couple.
Such people feel that length of time does not really matter so long as the parties decide to stick with each other no matter what.
A massive 89% of us move into a shared flat or house together before we get married, which seems pretty sensible (how else are you supposed to check whether they’ve got a secret Joe Mc Eldrey fandom going on) but is a big cultural shift.